But it’s okay, Mommy!
Wednesday, March 4th, 2009I love it because little kids are absolutely living in the present moment, you can learn so much from them, and them from you (be careful of this one!!).
Since little ones don’t understand time, they have no stress and are always happy (as long as all their needs are met!). They are totally playing in the moment – living in the moment. My kids play well by themselves (fortunately!), but I’ve noticed that if they need my attention I can either completely give it to them or I can be there but have my mind elsewhere. If my mind is on something else I’ve noticed that they need me longer. If I am there for them completely, in the present moment with them, then the amount of time they “need” me is less. If I’ve got things to do around the house, jewelry to make, or a blog to write I am able to get those things done if I just spend a little quality time with them. It makes them happy, I feel great, and in turn I’m more productive. It’s such a relief for me too because in that moment there’s absolutely nothing lacking…I have no stress and life is perfect!
Lately, my sweet Max (he’s 3) has been teaching me to let go. His new saying is “but it’s okay”.
“Max, you’ve got food all over your face.” – “yeah, but it’s okay!”
As he’s hitting his brother with a stuffed animal (Miles is mildly laughing) – “Mommy, it’s okay”.
We’re running late for school – “but it’s okay!”
And what’s really cool is that as soon as he says that, I relax and say you’re right IT IS OKAY. Sometimes we get so caught up in looking perfect, always doing things right, and everything being a certain way but does it really matter? Can we just let go and have fun? Because ultimately, it is okay!
Kids watch, learn, and sense our energy too. The more rushed I am to get out of the house, the more uncooperative they are. If I’m relaxed and calmly explain how we need to leave immediately, they listen and work with me. The way I do something, they do too. For example, I always rinse off the tooth brush and tap the brush on the counter before putting it up. Max does this too, and can point out that his Daddy doesn’t.
I also came to the realization that Max got his new expression (it’s okay) from me. I say it quite a bit – like if he drops his food, or can’t find a toy. So it comes full circle! I’m teaching him that it’s okay and he’s teaching me the same. How awesome is that?
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